Don’t Sweat the Small Stuff & It’s All Small Stuff – Richard Carlson

November 30, 2020 

We live in an age where we get so worked up about things, that upon closer examination aren’t really that big a deal. We focus and are concerned about little problems and blow them way out of proportion.

This is one of the amazing books that I have read recently. It has about 100 learning points. Each point is very thought provoking. I would like to share a few of the points mentioned that have brought about a big change to the way I work or see things around me.

  1. Life is Not an Emergency: – It is one beautiful journey and we should enjoy every moment of it. I am a perfectionist and love to complete projects that I take up. I would always sweat the small stuff. Now all that has changed.

Before I react or sweat it out, I now question myself: “In the bigger scheme of things, will this really matter?”

Regardless of who we are or what we do, nothing is more important than “YOU”. In realty everything can wait. Very little in our work life truly falls into the “emergency” category. If we stay focused on our work, it will all get done in due time.

  1. Become aware of Our Moods’ and don’t allow yourself to be fooled by the ‘Low Ones’ – The truth is: life is almost never as bad as it seems to be when you are in a low mood. We always imagine the worst during low times. In reality when we look back, it was never as bad as how we imagined during the lowest moment.
  2. Trust your Intuitive Heart – We always like to reason out things with logic. The mind likes to weigh the pros and cons of all decisions we take. Sometimes they are right and sometimes they are wrong. But the Heart always has answers to our questions. It is often difficult to explain the logic. Of all the decisions I have taken till date, I have realized that our gut feel never goes wrong. At times it cannot be explained but it is never wrong. And the quicker we learn to accept it, the faster is our decision making and our progress in life.
  3. Allow yourself to be bored – People are no longer human beings, we have become human doings. We constantly want to do something. We are very frightened when we don’t have anything to do even for a minute. Try giving yourself a chance to do nothing, maybe for an hour or so or maybe less. Don’t fight the feeling and we will see the feeling is replaced by peace and eventually we will learn to relax. At first, we may get anxious but with each time it will get a little easier. Much of our anxiety and inner struggle stems from our busy overactive minds, always needing something to entertain them, something to focus on and always wondering what’s next?? It’s as though we are frightened at the thought of not having something to do every minute. The beauty of doing nothing helps to clear the mind and relax. Once we take the occasional break, the mind comes back stronger, sharper, more focused and creative.
  4. Learn to Live in the Present Moment – To a large degree, the measure of our peace of mind is determined by how much we are able to live in the present moment. Irrespective of what happened in the past or what will happen in the future, the present moment is where we are – always! When our attention is in the present, we push fear from our minds. Fear is the concern of the events that might happen in the future. To combat this fear, the best strategy is to learn to bring back our attention to the present. If we practice this, it will give us rich dividends in the future.

If you love to read, grab a copy. Each point is explained in one or two pages making it very readable and reflective in our fast-paced life.


Roshni D’souza – Director : Lighthouse Entertainment Pvt. Ltd